By mcgriff29
on Apr 21, 2010  

I think spanking a child, no matter how light, teaches them that it's ok to hit and it's ok to express emotions by using force. I realize it may be difficult to refrain from this in situations when your child may be in danger, but I don't think anyone should ever make a conscience decision to spank a child.

By basilandcatnip
on Apr 21, 2010  

Each child is different. But I've found if they are taught early, you really have to keep on them and be consistant and it requires a lot of work, but if you teach them the boundaries and encourage the good behaviors they want to help out. ...also I installed the feature that the car can't run or move unless eveyone's seatbelt is on. It's amazing how it pulls over to the side of the road when I hear a seatbelt click off on the way to the park. :L

By mina77
on Apr 21, 2010  

Yes it's ok. Most of the people I know got spanked and we are all fine! Spare the rod spoil the child! Of course you shouldn't use a rod!

By eldapc11
on Apr 21, 2010  

I have 5 year old and I have never spanked her. I continue to not spank her because I have noticed that some of her friends that are spanked tend to be a bit more misbehaved. I know not all children who are spanked act out, but the ones I know, do. I have also noticed that many of the parents who spank do it out of anger. Some say they don't but, If they only wait a sec before they spank they might realize that spanking might not be the best solution. Everyone has different techniques and they should do as they please as long as they don't abuse the child.

By matchiebaby
on Apr 21, 2010  

In our family we give our children two Golden Rules that they must follow: OBEY and RESPECT. If they don't obey or show respect we give them 3 warnings. After the three warnings they know that they will be spanked. We make it a point that we don't spank in anger. We bring them to their room, we ask them why they are being spanked, and we explain to them that what they did was wrong. Our kids cry, of course. We hug them and reassure them that we didn't spank them because we were mad at them but because we want them to know that what they did was wrong. Our kids know that disobeying and being disrespectful merits them a spank. The bible says "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him" As long as we spank in a loving manner and not out of anger, we are assured by the bible that our kids will grow up not hating dad and mom but thankful for the guidance and love that was shown them.

By ballerine_avec_ardeur
on Apr 21, 2010  

I dont think it should be promoted. There are situations were the "right" it is abused. I was a nanny in a home and the children were virtually abused in their spankings. It was very violent! I found that time out worked just as well! Spanking children is ok as long as you talk to the child about why they are getting a spanking, keep it to a max of 2 or 3, and then end with a hug and a reminder that you love them! By the way, I did want to share that the father in the home that I worked for got help and the children are well loved and doing wonderful. It is no longer an issue! :)

By rulistenin
on Apr 22, 2010  

spanking, yes - beating, never

By shimmer_nay
on Apr 22, 2010  

I think its okay to spank a child. When I was younger I was punished this way and it worked everytime. However, With my boys, I only do this if nothing else seems to work. As long as it's not done to purposely abuse or mistreat, there is nothing wrong with a spanking.

By jennyjay459
on Apr 22, 2010  

I was disciplined through spanking as a child. I grew up to be a fully functional adult without anxiety issues, depression, anger issues, etc. Discipline is LOVE. I do not believe in beating a child, however, spanking a child on the bottom, is perfectly fine. I have a 13mo old son that does not always respond to verbal warnings and therefore received a spanking. He fully comprehends what 'NO' means as well 'Don't touch that, it will hurt you or it's hot!' I reason with him...but, there are times that spanking a child is warranted. Not each child is created the same. Some children only respond to spankings, some children respond perfectly to verbal warnings and reasoning. Sometimes I just feel that trying to reason with your child, whom you know will not respond/listen (b/c he/she has proven it doesn't work with them), is just lazy parenting. I think every parent should read 'The Strong Willed Child' by Dr. James Dobson whether or not they think there child is strong-willed or not.