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How do I explain "gay" to my 10yr old autistic son?
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on Feb 19, 2019 (Read 180 times | Comments: 4)
Any ideas?
rolliepollie
rolliepollie
on Feb 28, 2019 Quote  »     Reply  »

If you are just wanting to tell him what it means... Just tell him what it means. Two men or Two women instead of a man and a woman. As far as anything further such as your beliefs as to whether it is right or wrong - no one else can tell you that. We do not know what your beliefs are. I am not going to argue with anyone about what "I" believe is right or wrong. But as far as how to "explain gay" to him - just tell him what it means. Especially if he is asking questions for some reason.
Firefly84
Firefly84
on Feb 28, 2019 Quote  »     Reply  »

We may not have had the right approach but we were pretty blunt with our 10 year old when he asked last week. We told him that being gay means you have romantic feelings for someone that is the same sex as yourself, male. We gave examples, like 2 boys or 2 girls instead of a man and woman. We let him know that it's a part of biology and nature and there is nothing wrong with it and we shouldnt treat anyone differently if this is how they are. He seemed ok with that answer and went along to play with his hot wheels lol. We havent even gotten to "how are babies made". Cant wait for that one lmao
tailormade
tailormade
on Jul 17, 2019 Quote  »     Reply  »

I think in today's world it is much easier to explain "gay." Its just two mommies or two daddies. I am not yet there with my children but I plan on being very open, honest and quite blunt with topics of conversations. My parents never really did the "sugar coating" method with me and I definitely think it was the right approach. I think you should just be open and honest with your child to the best of your ability. Just be prepared for all the questions he may come at you with. If you cannot answer a question right away I would simply say, "I am not sure the answer to that but I will find out and let you know."
sykick
sykick
on Aug 22, 2019 Quote  »     Reply  »

Not sure how him being autistic is going to change the conversation. Love is love. Two people love each other. Straights are a man and a woman love one another. Gay/lesbian is a man loves a man/a woman loves a woman. Putting a label on it may be more confusing, depending on where he is on the spectrum and how he comprehends new things. My oldest son is autistic, but very high functioning, so there wasn't any additional difficulties. It doesn't need to be a full-on sit-down conversation. Gays don't live under rocks, so it's not like he won't be exposed to it or hasn't been already (and he may understand it way more than you think he does). With my kids, we didn't have an actual conversation about it as they had seen and met enough LGBTQ+ people that they just saw them as 'people'. When they asked what the word 'gay' meant, we just explained it as, "You know our friends Billy and Dwayne? They're gay. They are two men who love each other." That was all it took for them to understand.