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Any Bonus(step) Mommas Out There?
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on Jan 23, 2018 (Read 525 times | Comments: 3)
I don't like the "step" word, I prefer Bonus Mom bc we aren't stepping over or on anyone, we are an ADDED BONUS! I have a little more rare case as I am a f/t Bonus Mom and have been for the past four years. His Bio Mom was there his whole first year, and she came back in & out enough times spread out to equal almost 1 yr. As far as knowing her as his "mom" other than in pics he sees, he only knows her as a happy-go lucky lady who comes and gives him presents every now and then, feeds him candy and lies, promising the world, and then disappears again. I don't see that little boy any different from the two girls at all anymore, we have all bonded very well and came so far especially the past year! However, the first part of this process was insane!! I also lived as a single mom to my oldest daughter for right at 3 years, living off the government, because I had to and struggling daily. I choose that life over my abusive ex sperm donor! If you need to talk or advice, I'm here!
Jyjw8980
Jyjw8980
on Aug 11, 2019 Quote  »     Reply  »

I don't know you, but you are awesome. I myself have 3 older bonus children, but I don't get to see or interact with them much. A lot of drama between my husband and his ex and ex's family. So congrats on how far you've come.
ChrysSpeaks
ChrysSpeaks
on Feb 06, 2020 Quote  »     Reply  »

The definition "bonus" is amazing!! Will use it from now on, thank you for the positive thought.
Staskosgirl
Staskosgirl
on Feb 25, 2020 Quote  »     Reply  »

Bonus sounds marvelous! My oldest is not biologically mine but I'm The only mom he's ever known and I've been apart of his life since he was 15m. It's so easy filling out medical papers and forgetting my medical history doesn't affect him because you just don't notice it at all which is wonderful.