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Child with Adhd
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on Sep 12, 2012 (Read 10691 times | Comments: 21)
My 4.5 year old son has been disgnosed with ADHD. I have ADD myself. But his temper is out of control. He throws fits, screams, hits, spits, and talks back. He won't sit down to eat and is constantly running and jumping. When we try to get thim to sit down and do something he gets angry and yells and just refuses to even try.He has already been kicked out of 2 daycares for his behavior. I know he is only 4, but with a 2 year old, a 3 month old, 2 step-kids, and pregnant again, i just don't know how to deal with him. I've tried spanking, but that maakes it worse. Time out is out of the question, since he won't sit still. I love my son, and i just want to find ways to make it easier on him and me. Any suggestions?
MadHatter
MadHatter
on Sep 12, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

I have a family member who is almost in the same situation as you are in except she only has one child and he is a handful enough. have you thought about taking him to see a doctor to get medication to calm him down? his behavior could pose a danger to your unborn child and your other younger children. This is all I could say without being offensive. sorry.
pethrift
pethrift
on Sep 13, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

As a parent of a 6 year old girl with ADHD I can feel your pain and relate fully!!! I will tell you what my daughter's therapist told me. When you feel an argument. fit, tantrum, etc. coming on put up your hand, say stop, no, etc., and send them to their room. By giving a response to the bad behavior children with ADHD feel validated that they got the attention no matter if it is bad or good attention and they feed on it, becoming more and more out of control. By stopping it before it truly begins they lose their control of the situation and allows you to regain the control.
tabithamcgowan
tabithamcgowan
on Sep 13, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

yes, he goes to therapy once a week. but he is too young to be medicated. you have to wait until the age of 7. i know he is out of control. but it seems like the harder me and my husband try to control him the worse it gets. and thanks pethrift, that actually makes sense.
LucyEmma
LucyEmma
on Oct 01, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

My son was diagnosed at 3 with ADHD and is almost 14. It took me a while to realize that he was easily over stimulated and over reacted by acting out. He needed time to decompress and be quiet. He also was wild when there were not clear limits and expectations. I personally think that medications get a bad wrap. While I think they should be a last resort, they can be life changing for your son and you as well. If he was diabetic or epileptic you wouldn't question Meds. We tried diet changes, behavior modification, token economies, therapists and medicine was what worked. Perhaps your pediatrician could help with a new direction that would work for you.
ashpeg83
ashpeg83
on Oct 04, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

my son had very similiar behavior (he's also 4) fortunetly my husband was the same way and his mom did something that might seem radical but she put him on the feingold diet (feingold.org) its a diet that eliminates artifical colors, preservatives, flavors, carmel color, etc. my husbands baby sitter wouldn't watch him anymore because he was too wild, so when my son started showing the same signs we put him on the diet. it takes committment but it is ABSOLUTLY worth it. let me ask you a question, does your son seem to act up more after eating or drinking something with artifical coloring? my husbands behavior changed so radically (for the better) that the neighbors literally asked Joyce what she did to him. lol. before the diet she had to spank him multiple times just to get him to sit in the timeout chair. i know what your going through and when we put my son on the diet i noticed a huge difference too. go to feingold.org
NanaMusic
NanaMusic
on Oct 05, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

My grandson is severe ADHD and acts out like that frequently for his Mom, less often for his Dad, and very rarely with me. He is *finally* on medication - before he would get so frustrated because, as he put it, "my mind won't let me slow down". We went through the battle to get him on medication also. It has made him so much more in control of himself. But the medications are basically stimulants - so is caffiene. Before we could get meds, when he was coming to Nana's, I got some Pepsi Max - low-cal and high-caffiene. He would head straight to the fridge when he got to my house where he knew there would be a cup already fixed for him. By the time he had drank about half of that, you could visibly see the difference. He called it his "medicine pop".
NanaMusic
NanaMusic
on Oct 05, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

Continued ........... As the lady above says tho, diet makes a world of difference. I feel that has SO much to do with why he is better at my house and worse at his Mom's ... she feeds whatever is fast and easy - all prepared or fast-foods. I serve fresh fruits and vegetables and strive for well-balanced meals. Sweets are always there for him to have when he wants, so he rarely eats them, preferring fruits instead. So do try to examine your diet for him - even keeping a *food diary* to see if you can spot the problem foods for him. I hope you find what works for you and him as well as making life better for the others in the family.
emeisen
emeisen
on Oct 06, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

My nephew is adhd and odd and add. we use a time out room and a reward system. the time out room is a room with nothing but a beanbag chair and the we put him in there for 5 mins and when his 5 mins are up we go in and sit down eye level with him and talk about what he did and why its wrong. the school gives us a chart with smiley faces that tells us if he was bad or good in half hour intervules if he gets an 80 percent or more he gets a suprise if he gets a 60-80 he gets nothing and if he gets below a 60 he gets grounded and a few things taken away. You just have to find out what works for him and keep your part of the deal and not give in.
kprager
kprager
on Oct 07, 2012 Quote  »     Reply  »

1) home behaviorist to assist in building consistency/routine into his day 2) no sugar, processed foods 3) physical therapist that specializes in sensory integration 4) take data as to when, frequency of negative behaviors, identify patterns and positive behaviors that you want to replace the negative one..build a reward system for everytime he displays the positive behavior (stickers on a chart, when the chart is full he gets to sepnd special time with you, see a movie, get a toy, etc). overtime reduce frequency of rewards 5) DHA supplment 6) caffeince should work but not really a healthy option
gorda361
gorda361
on Oct 16, 2013 Quote  »     Reply  »

i know a toddler wit adhd and is currently using meds prescribed by dr. you should talk to his pediatrician because spanking isnt going to help.
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